Depressions is a sneaky, dubious disease that affects more and more men, women and teenagers. What is so tricky about this disease is the fact that people usually close up just enough to stop sharing their thoughts and feelings, which is when trouble begins.
Fighting depression on your own can significantly worsen the condition, therefore it is always advisable to ask for help immediately after initial symptoms emerge.
As per PhD Selena C. Snow, “[A] depressed person has an opportunity to learn that they are not the only one suffering in silence as they gain support and empathy from others who understand the depths of their pain. And they benefit from the encouragement of peers to take small steps forward.”
Depression is actually difficult to spot, but if you already are aware of someone suffering from this horrifying disease, here is how you can help them.
These are the 8 methods to help a depressed person find life’s joy once more:
1. Face the issue
Pretending depression is not as serious or is non-existent as a disease altogether can lead to more severe problems or the patient.
Instead of ignoring the issue, it is okay to say the word, acknowledge the problem and ask for treatment.
2. Do not fix a depressed person
Being a savior may seem like an admirable role, but you are in no way an expert on the matter.
This sort of disease is always in need of medical attention. Therefore you should always schedule an appointment at your doctor or therapist and engage into regular therapy sessions.
Know that whoever is dealing with depression, won’t be healed as easy, therefore you cannot be the person who saves them. Ask for proper help, instead of a temporary solution.
3. Control the optimism
While you may think that a cheerful spirit can help you put a depressed person into a good mood, it just so happens that depressed people are not fans of overexcitement or exaggerated positivity.
Imagine what would be like to suffer from this horrendous disease, while the world is moving on and being happy! Be understanding and approach the problem with a neutral tone. Shortly put, stay happy but don’t push it.
4. Talking helps
A depressed person’s initial instinct is to back down and crawl into his shelter. As a helper in the situation you need to force talks out of them, regardless of their will to do it.
“Don’t avoid the person because you can’t think of something clever to say – someone who can listen is valuable. Sometimes just being there with them is valuable, so don’t put pressure on them to have something to say either.
Make it clear that you want them to feel free to talk about anything that’s on their mind – but only when they feel able to,” says medical expert Michael Simpson.
Talking is a method of stress relief and you might get to know the situation this depressed person found himself in.
5. Acknowledge their feelings
Depressed people may seem as if they don’t care, but they seek for approval and understanding just like we all do. If you hear them out and register their feelings, talk about them and accept them as truthful. This will help the depressed person feel more accepted and understood.
A depressed person has a tough time opening up, therefore everyone who wants to reach out to them as a support system, should.
Depressed people need to know they have a strong support system no matter what.
Writer on the subject and depressing specialist Dr. Gail Saltz says, “Most people’s reaction—it isn’t conscious—is to pull away, get away…
Know that you can talk to them without feeling what they feel. You can do a great service by reaching out. You don’t have to imagine what it feels like.”
Although your support should not be overbearing, depressed people need to feel comfortable knowing there are people who love them around.
7. Take them places
Depressed people tend to be isolated and alienated. For that reason, inviting them to do stuff and go places can mean a great deal. Try to introduce a little reassurance and encouragement in their lives and see how they react to it.
8. Know the limit
Again, as odd as depression may sound to you, you are no expert and have no idea what actually goes on in that person’s mind.
Therefore, your health is also important, so make sure you take good care of it.
Remind yourself that you also need to be happy and satisfied and find things to help you feel that way. Only then you will be able to help others.